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Are You a Chronic Procrastinator?

Are You a Chronic Procrastinator?

If you are, then read on. And welcome to the league.

The story of my life can be summed up in four little words: “I’ll do it later.” I am such a chronic procrastinator that I wished that my wedding be postponed by a month on the eve of my wedding ceremony! (Now you get me, right?) Do you often feel that you are not ‘ready’ to do something ‘now’ even when you were doing practically nothing all day? I have felt this way all my life ever since I left school. I felt that I have all the time in the world to do important things. So, I’ve been on and off the track after I graduated from college. Some of the things that came with a strict deadline had to be dealt with. But there were other ‘less important commitments’ like doing yoga every other day or helping a friend with her DIY projects which always got pushed off to be done on the following weekend. Unfortunately, those weekends never came. To cut to the chase, any work that did not come with a deadline never saw the light of the day. So, I discovered that when I procrastinate, I follow a pattern. I only put those tasks off which I’m not very interested in and those that are not catastrophic in short-term including maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

So, I came up with a simple plan to change things by bits and pieces. Here’s a list of three things that has helped me deal with the my procrastination issues:

1. Target “do-able” goals: We are often tempted to take more on our plates than we can eat. For instance, when I had to choose the level of intensity for a training program on a fitness app, I opted for the most difficult one. After two days of intensive cardio, my brain automatically signalled me to take the rest of the week off and that one week became a month. And instead of working out, I spent more time playing Candy Crush. So, I have learnt the hard way that I need to have realistic goals in order to be motivated to make them a reality.

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2. Take baby steps: It’s very important to break a complicated piece of work into segments that can be targeted one at a time. Sometimes the enormity of a task can scare us into not doing it at all. Remember the saying ‘Rome was not built in a day’? So, it’s a good idea to break down something grand into achievable bits and taking steps to complete them. And yes, do not forget to reward yourself after you successfully complete each step. The Candy Crush game can come in handy now.

3. Be consistent: A change that is permanent is the result of consistency. According to the principle of Kaizen (I learnt it in college but started using it only recently), if you perform a task for a few minutes every day without fail, it will become a habit and change your life for the better. That makes sense to me. Had I chosen a moderate intensity workout every single day, I would have achieved my overall health goals by now.

All said and done, the one thing that is most important is to get started. Get set go! I wish you success in your fight with the procrastination monster.

Pep Talk: Braving it Like You Do

Pep Talk: Braving it Like You Do

Have you ever been in situations when you felt a hard virtual wall against your back and then, all of a sudden, the fearful feelings dissolved into an almost tangible shield of bravery? Well, most of us have been. We all have this innate bravery. Perhaps, it’s still waiting to be unraveled at some point in your life. Till then, we could always remind ourselves that we have what it takes to brave the odds.

It’s difficult to respond positively to something devastating at most of the times. However, that is not all.  We are wired to defend ourselves and that cocoon that you retreat into is nothing but a tool in your defense kitty. Being brave is not always about confronting the one who is at the other end of the argument. Sometimes it’s just coming to terms with your worst enemy, your fear. To own it up and stay calm is the most turbulent of the circumstances is bravery in the truest sense. You are never defeated until you begin to believe so.

Half the battle is own as soon as you muster enough courage to face the outcomes and remind yourself to take the ownership of what’s going on in your life. Do not be afraid to confront a boss or a colleague or a spouse or any other person in authority if you think you have the right reasons to do so. Go get it, girl!

In this tiny write up, I decided not to quote any examples and tried to generalize everything to the point of seeming superficial because I want you to ponder and discover for yourself, your instinctive bravery. Reiterating this fact would not do any good till we realize for ourselves that there are greater causes to serve than catering to your own inner demons. I leave you with this thought…until next time. Meanwhile, you can share with us your biggest fear and how you overcame it. Go on, spread the light.